Dear Stephen,
I’m in my 40s, married, have kids, a mortgage, and all the normal responsibilities that make quitting a job a big decision. I’ve been with my company for years, I’ve done well, and I honestly didn’t want to leave. But I accepted another job because I’ve reached the point where I simply cannot work for my boss anymore.
My wife thinks I’m making too much out of the whole two-weeks-notice thing. She keeps reminding me that when my company fires someone, they don’t give that person two weeks to get their life together—they just fire them. Yet when the employee is the one ending the relationship, suddenly we hear about loyalty, professionalism, and “burning bridges.”
I’m in sales, and I’m not planning to disappear. I will prepare a complete turnover report, explain every open project, identify what needs immediate attention, transition my accounts, and do an exit interview. Another salesperson can take over the business and the commissions that go with it. My new employer would like me sooner, and frankly, after everything that has happened here, I’d like to go sooner.
My boss constantly tells us what a great culture we have. Maybe he thinks it’s great because he is the boss. I just don’t want to damage the reputation I spent years building because I didn’t follow this supposed two-week rule. Am I really burning a bridge?
Burning Bridges in the Burbs
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Dear Burning Bridges,
Your wife is right. Corporate America has somehow turned two weeks’ notice from a courtesy into a morality test, and it isn’t one. Know what you signed, understand any contractual obligations you have, and behave professionally on the way out—but please stop acting as though Moses came down from the mountain carrying a resignation policy. Here is how I have always looked at quitting: when you quit your job, you are firing your boss. Companies fire employees every day because management has decided it is best for the business. They restructure, eliminate jobs, change territories, and sometimes somebody walks into the office employed and is unemployed before lunch. Does the company give that employee two weeks’ notice? Please. The company makes the decision that works for the company, and employees are allowed to make the decision that works for themselves and their families.
If you respected your boss, liked the company, and can comfortably stick around for a while to make the transition easier, terrific. It’s a nice courtesy, but “nice” and “required” are two very different words, and too many bosses conveniently confuse them when they are the ones being left. What you owe your career is professionalism. Finish what you reasonably can, prepare
a serious turnover report, explain every project in the air, and don’t leave the next person guessing. Don’t steal information, sabotage anyone, trash the company on your way to the elevator, or ignore something you legitimately agreed to. That’s how you protect your reputation. I do not measure somebody’s character by whether they managed to survive exactly ten more business days with a boss they cannot stand.
At The Viscusi Group, I have spent more than four decades watching people quit, get fired, get recruited away, and occasionally head for the exit as though somebody pulled the fire alarm. Good employees don’t wake up one morning and suddenly decide to become irresponsible. If someone who put in years of good work is so anxious to leave that they cannot stomach another ten days, I am much more interested in what happened during those years than what happened during their final week. And bosses, please stop telling yourselves you have a great culture because everyone agrees with you while you are sitting at the head of the conference table. Of course you like the culture. You are the boss. The real test is what people say when you leave the room, whether your best employees take a recruiter’s call, and how quickly they move when somebody finally gives them an opportunity to get out.
Then there is my favorite threat: “You’ll burn a bridge.” You burn a bridge by lying, stealing, betraying people, or behaving like an idiot. Leaving sooner than your boss would prefer—after responsibly turning over your work—does not automatically burn anything. If years of goodwill disappear because you gave five days instead of ten, you didn’t have much of a bridge in the first place. So leave cleanly, leave respectfully, and protect your reputation. If staying a little longer works for you, fine—but if you need to go, go. The company will open the next morning, somebody will cover the accounts, and your boss may even have to roll up their sleeves and do some of the work themselves. They’ll survive.
And bosses, if this answer makes you angry, good. Before calling the employee unprofessional, ask yourself why someone who gave you years of good work couldn’t stand giving you another ten days. Remember: when an employee quits, they are firing their boss. Sometimes the exit interview you really need isn’t with them—it’s with yourself. That may be a much less comfortable conversation, but it is probably the more important one.
Signed,
Stephen
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